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I’ve always considered myself fairly low-maintenance. I don’t take forever to get ready in the morning, I don’t have any particular diet restrictions, I don’t necessarily take my coffee in any certain way, and I tend to go with the flow. However, in the last few months, I’ve found myself saying “I’m pretty particular about…” to lots of different people. It made me reflect on just how low-maintenance I truly am. Decide for yourself.


I’m pretty particular about my wardrobe. I don’t like to spend a ton of money, but I like good quality things. Therefore, most of my jeans are from Gap or Ann Taylor Loft. Shirts must be long enough to keep my muffin topbelly covered when I move or bend. If I see a photo of myself in an unflattering outfit, the offending article of clothing gets donated.

I’m pretty particular about fruit. I love fruit, but only certain things. I love bananas, berries, and pineapple. I’ll enjoy citrus in small amounts (unless it’s blood orange season, then I want it in bulk quantities). But hand me a pear and I’ll look at you like you’re trying to give me a grenade.

I’m pretty particular about the spelling of my name. I don’t forgive you easily when you butcher my relatively normal name with its traditional spelling. I’m looking at you, Panera.

I’m pretty particular about certain toiletry products. I don’t care about my shampoo, eye liner, or toothpaste but my tampons must be o.b., my tissues must be Kleenex or Puffs, and heaven forbid I use lip balm that isn’t Chapstick. These days I’m also partial to Ulta brand makeup and Dove deodorant, though I can’t promise it’ll stay that way.

I’m pretty particular about beer. I don’t drink cheap beer. I avoid wheat beers that claim to have banana and cardamom flavors. I don’t like most flavored beers, unless it’s made by Leinenkugel’s, and even then I won’t drink their Berry Weiss. I only drink dark beers when it’s chilly or if the food I’m eating makes for an appropriate pairing. I generally stick to middle of the road amber ales or supper hoppy pale ales.

I’m pretty particular about my grocery shopping routine. I clip coupons. I sort coupons. I make a list. I show up to Meijer. I park on the east side of the lot and browse the store clockwise, from toiletries to paper goods to frozen foods to produce. I use only reusable grocery bags that I lay out in order for the bagger from sturdy to sucky.

I generally eat anything, but at times I can be pretty particular about very common things. I like carrots, but only if they’re raw. I don’t like fennel but I’ll eat Italian sausage. I prefer dark chocolate to milk chocolate, but I don’t like to dip my fruit in chocolate. I prefer fruity desserts to chocolatey desserts, dry wines to sweet wines, and hard cheese to soft cheese. Though I love lots of strange foods (brussels sprouts! tofu! sushi!), I typically hate anything with buttercream frosting, bleu cheese, pears, lamb, pork, and anise.


So, what are you pretty particular about?

i want to share my story here...I have friend who i like a lot, respect him, adore him, and willing to do anything for him...and when he is sad or in trouble i used to cry and pray god for his good.I started speaking to him exactly one year from now.I first met him 3 years back during a fest of my college when we both were in first year of our college and got introduced to each other by a senior common friend of us.after that i really forgot who he was and i was in my world of problems(academic), again exactly after 2 years i met him again in the same college fest and started speaking and he became really close to me and he had remembered me although i had forgot, that was so sweet of him and later he used to care a lot about me and seems like he was becoming possessive about me.then i dont know how i developed a huge crush on him and i was thinking its wrong thinking about a guy during studies ( i had developed hatred towards love and when that happens to me its obvious i felt scary and guilt coz i had thought love during life is wrong). I couldt even control my feelings towards him, i used to feel is presence everywhere, we usually meet in extracurricular activity club of our college where we both work together, and he is the only one friend i have there, when he doenst turn up for meeting my heart beat goes high and my eyes starts looking for him.We became so close that i used to share all my problems with him,and he did the same. I had no guts to tell me i like him and used to cry thinking of him, i had no guts because i believe first love is best and later loves wont give u happiness , so if this selection is wrong i have to be guilt for life time and my parents hate love marriage.after 6 months or so i told this to my best friend and told all my feelings, later she gave me a good advice and told me this is all common and everything is fine and told me to try to leave thinking about him and talking to him few days, and i did the same and i was bit relieved and later i started speaking to him and realised he is my best friend and love with care exists between us and it is more stronger than love...but some where in my mind i still feel crush for him i dream about we being together and i cant tell this to my friend who had resolved the problem back then coz she have thought i'm fine now.....
Karina Apr 2 '15 · Tags: personal feeling

I love uncluttering.


Because a life with less clutter makes it easier to:

* Reduce the daily stress and find inner peace.

* Focus and to do a better job (and often do it quicker too).

* Keep your attention steadily on what is most important and meaningful in life.

Clutter creates distraction. It can create stress and confusion that you may not be aware that it’s creating.

But after you have uncluttered there is usually a sensation of feeling calmer and lighter, a bit more upbeat and being able to think more clearly.

Decluttering a drawer, shelf or some kind of space in your life can be an unexpectedly positive experience not just practically. But for you as a person both emotionally and mentally too.

This is the most important reason why I declutter.

But it, of course, also frees up space. It can help you to sometimes earn a bit of extra money. It can make someone else happier by giving them something you have no use for anymore.

If you have just 5 or 10 minutes to spare today and want to take a first step to simplify your outer and inner life then I recommend uncluttering just one small space in your house.

Here’s how I declutter in five quick steps.

1. Pick a drawer or a shelf. Empty it out and clean it out. Put everything that was in that space in one big pile.

2. Make choices about those items, one at a time. For each item in that pile ask yourself this: have I used this in the past year? If not, then it is often pretty safe to say that you won’t be using it in the future either.

3. Give it away or trash it? If you are not keeping it then you may want to give it to someone you know that you think could make good use of it. Or you can give it away to your local charity.  If that is the case put it in a box or bag for that purpose. And if you just want to trash it then put it then put it in a bag where you’ll collect the trash items during this brief uncluttering session.

4. If you are keeping it, then find a home for it. It could be at one of the front corners of your drawer or to the right in the top shelf of your bookcase. Having a home for each item where you put it back each time after using it will reduce the weekly clutter in your home and you will always be able to easily find the item.

5. If you are unsure about the item then put it in a 6-month box. Put that box away somewhere where you can easily access it – a closet for example – if you need something from it. On the outside of the box write the date when you put the stuff in it. 6 months later get the box and see what is still in it. If you haven’t used those things in the past 6 months then you have no need for them and you can safely give them away or throw them out.

And that’s it.

By taking small 5-10 minute steps when you have some time to spare you can declutter a whole lot over a few weeks or months.

Or that first small step may lead you to uncluttering a whole room at once.

Alesya Apr 2 '15 · Tags: uncluttering
A goal in life for many of us is to be in happy and healthy relationship but most of us can also agree that accomplishing that is easier said than done. The media constantly feeds us the notion that romance and sex are the key components to a relationship—at least initially, we're led to believe, being attractive, being attracted to, being desired, and being pursued are a huge part of the dating game.

Having said that, let’s turn to what really sustains a relationship over time, especially after the first blush of attraction has faded. Romance and sex are vital to any intimate relationship. But there’s no excuse to get lazy and just not bother being fully present as romance rolls into the routine of daily life.

We all should know that there will be ups and downs, and ebbs and flows, within any relationship—made even more complex by our own personal ups and downs, and ebbs and flows. But being unhappy in any relationship, even if you love the person you’re with or have been together for a long time is a huge red flag. To avoid that, partners need to find ways to communicate so that their equilibrium is not disturbed on a long-term basis. (For example, one partner making constant adjustments at the expense of another throws off the balance of the relationship and may cause stress and dissatisfaction.)

 Let’s get to the heart of the matter: How do you know you’re in a strong and healthy relationship, or maybe better stated: How do you know you’re in a relationship that’s good for you? Considering these 10 factors can help you decide:
        1. You and your partner are on the same page in terms of your basic values and life goals. You both know what you want out of life, what your common goals are, what you wish to accomplish in life, and are firmly committed to achieving these together.        2. There is a strong sense of trust between you. You openly discuss everything---the good, the bad, and the ugly. There is no hidden agenda and no secrets from your past.        3. You keep your own identity within the relationship and so does your partner. This is so vital. Marriage may be a large piece of the whole pie that identifies who you are. But above all, you’re still who you are as an individual beyond your various roles in life.        4. You spend quality time together doing things that are mutually fulfilling as well as quality time apart doing what is important to you individually.        5. You encourage each other to grow and change. In other words, you inspire each other to be a better person.        6. You and your partner feel safe communicating personal needs and wants. Time is set aside to discuss issues relevant to you as a couple or each of you individually. Listening carefully with undivided attention is essential to real understanding.        7. You respect each other's differences even if you disagree on important issues. And you are able to turn your differences into fair compromise.        8. You share realistic expectations for the relationship, not what you wish or fantasize it should be. Remember that you’re dealing with another extraordinarily complex individual in addition to yourself. There’s enough to work with without pursuing unrealistic ideals.        9. Each of you contributes your fair share to the relationship, whatever that happens to be. Each partner brings their best strengths and abilities for the benefit of the “team."        10. You and your partner honor each other’s family ties and friendships. While it’s important to set aside time for family and friends it’s also important to maintain healthy boundaries between you and your partner as a unit apart from other close relationships.
        Caring, kindness, support, encouragement, and empathy are the watchwords of a good and loving relationship. There is simply no room for rudeness, meanness, jealousy, insulting, degrading, blaming, guilting, criticizing, judging, or physically acting out, especially when the object is one's partner. Those boundaries cannot be crossed.
        Remember: When you decide to join your life with another person, it’s about embarking on a journey together, for years to come. You don’t give up who you are and neither does your partner. You each retain your individuality, joining the best of who you are for your common good, and if you so decide, for your family.

Valeria Apr 2 '15 · Tags: healthy relationship
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